Feb 1, 2016

Feb 1, 2016

Man Mom.  This week was ful of many miracles, but the only thing that made me sad was knowing all week that the office elders had told you that I was going to extend without the chance for me to tell you (and explain) first.  And now everyone knows (even carl vance), and that means that probably all week you were stressed out and that really something I did that I thought was going to be a good thing came as a not so welcome surpirse from missioary travel.  The week that Stephen leaves.  I think the poor office elder felt bad.  Not from what you said, but when he heard how sad I was to hear that all of this had happened and it was the week my brother left on the mission.  Man. That definately did not happen how I thought it would.

So i guess here is my explination.

I have been thinking about it a lot for awhile now and i always thought that would be a good thing to do but I didnt know really if I could, or if heremanas even did that kind of stuff.

And so I just thought and prayed about it.  Then one day I was with presidente and we were talking about changes and he told me that the change I go home in they are losing 9 hermanas and getting 1.  And the elders are about the same.  Losing 8 getting 1.  I thought about that, and the next monday (a week ago) I wrote president and said that if he needed I could extend to help the misison out. And I prayed about it and felt really good about it.  I felt that if he said yes, I should do it.  Then 4 days later i got a call from the secratary.  Were they still going to come pick me up at the end of my mission.  No. I thought you had already told them that.  Then he said, ok, great, I am going to buy your flights then for the 29th.  WAit, so I am going to extend? I asked.  Yes, thats what presidente told me.  Oh, ok.  And there was my response.  

And I thought spirng term starts the first week of may, that I was good. I also thought that I was going to miss the family vacation, because I hadnt heard of any big plans yet, so I thought maybe the would be a st george trip I would miss. And my mission needed my help.  And Iso I thought. ok, I am just going to explain everything to mom next monday and itll be good.  But then when I called him about something else later in the week he told me that my mom had called, that she was really confused.  My stomach dropped. Because I realized that the same day you dropped stephen off you gots the news, sin explination, that I was extending. AHHHHHH:  There goes 15 months of trying to be a good daughter and then I just kick you when youre down. Man.  I really did feel really bad about that.  And in that same conversation i asked about ecclsiastical endorsement, and apperatnly i have to fill something out about it, THEN sent it to president.  So here we are feb 1st and the ecclestialtical endorsement isnt even close of what I understand. 

Anyway, this is the plan as of now . . .. 

1. GO spring term.  No idea where I am even going to live, start classes a week late (somebody maybe katie can write them . . .and tell them why).  I think this works.  Classes I could take . . . bowling or whatever other class katie and jess want to take with me.

geneology

a realigion class.  Isaih or something

american history . .. .  i really havent taken the generals I need to take. A genearl.  And then katie can just help me, talk to the teachers.

2. Live at home spring.  (which everyone says is a bad idea because i will want to do a million things but I am so sick of being go go go and I never see you guys.  High school, byu, jeru, mission.  I know that maybe my feelings will change after I get home but I just kind of want to BE THERE for the family.  be there with the family. Live at home.  Have a job, but live at home.  Maybe i am dumb and naieve, but that doesnt really sound the worst to me right now. Just go in the fall.  but apperantly people have depression that stay at home after their mission)

3.  So I guess I trust you guys, and I will do option 1.  but i dont know what I want to do when I get home.  It just streses me out soo bad. 

But we asre just going to keep having faith.

But I love you!

Hna J

Liza,

Thanks for explaining your decision.  I think it is a great one, and we will be excited to see you on April 29th—one day before our 24th Anniversary!

So, I will call BYU, but neither Katie nor I think it is a good idea to start spring term a week late.  A lot of the classes are graded on attendance.  Plus, you would have to move down there on Saturday, the day after you get  home.

My advice is to get home, take a minute to catch your breath, go shopping and get some new clothes, get a phone, etc., have your homecoming, hang with the family, go through your old stuff and see what you still want, catch up with your friends in Salt Lake and Provo—you can sleep at Katie and Trent’s—we will have a bed there.  Then you can move down to Provo after a few weeks and find a job, and either keep working, or go summer term.

I think you are going to cause yourself major amounts of stress if you jump into school a week late with NO time to decompress from being a missionary.

So, just my advice.

FYI, I emailed the mission secretary the forms you need for your ecclesiastical endorsement.  There is really not much to fill out—it just looked like a list of rules specific to BYU-Provo that your mission president is supposed to review with you.

So, let me know what you think.

Love you,

Mom